Know Me...PLEASE!!!
What’s the big deal about being known by others, anyway?
A little over a decade ago, Justin Hall, a sophomore at
If you’re not familiar with the “blog” phenomenon or the “internet socialization highway” that has become wildly popular in the past several years, then you are either buried in a dark hole or one of those people who believes that the computer is a fad like butterfly collars and will soon go away…or both. Regardless of where you are on the internet superhighway curve, the fact is that hundreds of millions of people are rushing to these electronic portals of community every day. “Why would people want to do that,” you might ask? To be known.
You see, being real and fully exposed is becoming more and more popular. As this next generation is maturing, there is an intense movement afoot for genuineness and reality (we need look no further than the glut of reality shows on the airwaves to understand this). The age of the silent generation is over and young people now, more than ever, on are on a quest to find out what’s authentic. As long as diaries have been kept, they have been outlets for individuals to let their hair down and reveal everything. Weblogs, socialization portals, and the like, are a way for people to make themselves known. The vast difference, however, is that what was once private is now fully revealed to the masses.
For example, here’s an average profile from one of these internet communities by a young girl named Krystyn. She says about herself:
Status: Single, by choice
Here for: Networking, Serious Relationships, Friends
Orientation: Straight, I guess
Hometown:
Body type: 5' 1" / Kinda Sexy, if you like really short girls
Ethnicity: White / Caucasian
Religion: Undecided
Zodiac Sign: Capricorn
Children: See Status (Above)
Occupation: Student
Often times, in an effort to be known by others, writers in these electronic societies will simply place their every thought on the page. Here’s Gregg’s mundane self-disclosure in a recent entry. He includes:
Is Math the most boring subject in the world or not? All I can remember in school is being told over and over – you’ll need this when you grow up. And now, here I am grown up, and I can’t do math. I don’t need to! I have a calculator on my phone, on my watch, in my drawer—they’re everywhere. But, sometimes, I get cought without my calculator and have to add or make a percentage..and I just can’t do it. Do you remember haw to calculate percentages…cause I sure don’t! Oops, I guess I should have paid attention afterall…
But what is all too telling are entries like this one from Jan, 19, married, and part of a “blogring” (an internet community for people of a similar affinity) known as the “suicides. She writes:
You can’t spell painted without pain. There’s a reason for the title. There’s a reason why stats aren’t accurate. There’s a reason why suicide is common. There’s a reason for the clichés. There’s a reason for it all, or at least, for most of it. Suicide is the national killer. Clichés about suicide formed for those who need to cope with losing a loved one, or for attempting and failing themselves. Not all who commit suicide want to. And no one understands suicide better than those who’ve survived it.
But I can’t vouch for everyone on my suicide. I’ve never cut. I’ve never lowered myself to drugs and alcohol. I’ve never physically hurt another person. I’ve never done half the things considered suicidal. But I attempted, a few years ago. I had my depression medicine with me while I was in the car at my mothers work. I couldn’t tell you what was on my mind, nor could I tell you why I had done it, but I did. I tried drugging myself. Before I took enough to be sent to the hospital, I ran out. I was disappointed then, but now I’m quite relieved…
To further understand the magnitude to which this extends, I invite you to take some time over the next few days and explore some of these internet societies on the internet. It’s amazing what some people will say to be known by others and make friends. Now, buyer beware, not everything out there is wholesome. In fact, some people will go to great lengths to disgust or offend you with their style of disclosure. But if you can sort through the amateuristic composure and seemingly disjointed thought patterns that accompany some people’s thoughts, I believe you will find an underlying thread throughout these cyber-communities – “know me and be my friend”
As we come to a new sermon series, we will be capitalizing on this phenomenon. The series entitled, OurSpace.com is a quest uncover the truths of living in community with others and being known by them and by God. In your worship this week, contemplate on the idea of being known and having the courage to be fully transparent with everyone…including God.
Resounding Themes:
Omnipotent God
Knowing Fully, As I Am Fully Known
Reflecting Jesus
Community
Ready, Set, READ
Proverbs 17:17
A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for a time of adversity.
Ready, Set, MEDITATE
- Are you shocked by the “blog” phenomenon? What aspect of it do you find the hardest to understand? What part of it is attractive to you? What do you think motivated people to share their lives at incredibly deep levels with total strangers? Would you be surprised to know that many people tell the truth in self revelation on blogs? On the flipside, there are some who make-up entirely artificial alter egos – what point do they miss in the blog experience?
- Who is you best friend in this life? Why? Can you point to a single circumstance in you relationship that solidified this bond, or was it a series of circumstances that has grown and matured it? Are you able to share everything with this person? Even the darkest parts of your makeup that no one else knows? If not, what keeps you from being fully known by them? If you have, what has sharing in this way done for you?
- How is it possible for a friend to be able to love at all times? Are there times when you are unlovable? Your friends? What truth under girds all true friendships? Is it true that brothers and sisters are necessary during times of adversity? Relate a time when you’ve found that to be all too true.
Ready, Set, PRAY
God, what words could we express to capture the nature of Your character in such a way as to relate our understanding of it to You? You know all, see all, create all, possess all, and rule over all. Not one second of any minute of any hour of any day of any week of any month of any year of any century of any millennium has transpired without You first ordaining it and then noticing its passing.
What an awesome God You are!
In Your creativity, You set man and woman – male and female You created them – to be the coheirs of Your blessings. In Your eyes, it was not good for them to be alone. And Lord, even today, You desire the same for us…that we would not languish without relationship, but that we would thrive in the security that comes from knowing and being known by each other. God, give us the integrity to be authentic. Let us revel in the knowledge that there is One Who knows us to our very being…and even in that knowledge…continues to love us.
We return to You lives of honesty and gratitude. In Jesus AMEN
Ready, Set, WORSHIP!

